Perfect Wedding Planning

The most important thing you have to do is find out if the mother of either the bride or groom will be there, and if a bachelorette party is in the works. Why? Because while it’s traditional for the mothers of the wedding couple to attend the bridal shower, it isn’t normal for them to go to the bachelorette party.

There’s a difference between how you should act, and what kinds of gifts you should give, if the mother of the bride or groom is there. Reserve the raucous antics, off-color one-liners, skimpy night wear, and “adult” games and gifts for the bachelorette party. To put it another way, if you wouldn’t want anyone doing it in front of your OWN mother, don’t do it in front of anyone else’s!

Also, keep in mind that giving a bridal shower gift does not exempt you from giving a wedding gift. If money is tight, pool it with that of other wedding guests. And though you can give money or a check as a wedding gift, it shouldn’t under ANY circumstances be given as a bridal shower gift. Give a twenty-five to seventy-five dollar gift card instead – it will show you’ve made an minimal effort to care.

But even the best-organized bridal shower gift won’t be a success if it’s not well decorated. Don’t settle for the cheapest wrapping paper and ribbons. If necessary, have it wrapped in the store or get a friend to help. Failing that, you can get a colorful shopping bag. And be sure to include a signed card so the bride can keep a record for her thank-you letters.

Speaking of bridal shower gift ideas, there is one that you can download, have printed, and have nicely bound right now: 1000 Questions For Couples by Michael Webb, a relationship counselor whose credentials include nearly five hundred television and radio appearances, nearly twenty books, and a wife of twenty years. It gives the bride or groom both serious and fun questions about love that they can ask each other. You’ll also get a The Newlywed’s Guide To A Successful Marriage free! More information is at http://questions-about-love.blogspot.com .

The right bridal shower gift ideas reflect your thoughtfulness, kindness and sense of value. The appropriate bridal shower etiquette will guarantee you’ll have the best time without embarrassing the mother of the bride or groom. And if there’s no bachelorette party scheduled, why not plan one yourself?